tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-812532375594500224.post6695377277832552239..comments2023-06-12T04:21:39.430-07:00Comments on The knife you see - Ulcerative Colitis, Colectomy & Beyond: Mind body splitarkayeffhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09863542411248361164noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-812532375594500224.post-84755338694371181632011-05-10T15:03:31.793-07:002011-05-10T15:03:31.793-07:00You are sentenced to a pint and a half of trouser ...You are sentenced to a pint and a half of trouser jelly every morning for the next month. Take him down, and get this jelly out from under my wig.gloriamundihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12476712899700515223noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-812532375594500224.post-55572746927891110402011-05-10T11:35:38.447-07:002011-05-10T11:35:38.447-07:00G,
Maybe more appropriate down the convicted pers...G,<br /><br />Maybe more appropriate down the convicted person's trousers, (innocent until proven Guilty etc) or perhaps even better under the prosecuting / defence council's wig?<br /><br />I digress - do excuse me.arkayeffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09863542411248361164noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-812532375594500224.post-6785968199049176842011-05-07T13:39:12.980-07:002011-05-07T13:39:12.980-07:00Said I wouldn’t comment lengthily, but can’t resis...Said I wouldn’t comment lengthily, but can’t resist it, sorry, such fascinating comments. <br /><br />Boarding school? Yeah, me too. But I get a bit impatient with the “boarding school survivors” stuff on the net (don’t at all mean the above!) – what about the comprehensive school survivors, the sec mods, the grammar school, the…etc. Any school can be horrible, then great, then a bit nasty again, then….Or good for some, hell for others. But - at the end of the day, literally, you go home. Or not. (But then home can be hell. Ain't life complex?)<br /><br />But I feel Geraldine is being a bit hard on herself when she calls herself a wimp. Going to a boarding school at such a young age can often have a strangely dislocating effect, I think. Where do I come from, where was my childhood home? Well, obviously in one sense, where my parents lived. But no half-term in my day, so for almost two-thirds of the year, for ten or 11 weeks at a time, you were somewhere else than at home. So some roots in that other place, but roots which were almost entirely dislocated at the end of your schooling. Roots in your parental home, but you weren’t there much of the time.<br /><br />The effects of going away to school may be useful in later life, in terms of agency. My bro did his National Service in a tough outfit (Royal Marines) and he said great hulking blokes were in tears at first because they missed Mum and Home. Naturally. But as he observed, we went through (n.b. went through, not necessarily got past) all that aged 13, or 11, or…hang on…nine?? Seven????<br /><br />Too bloody young. Seems obvious now, doesn’t it? Just like letting them have half-term, or monthly, or weekly, exeats is obvious. To go home. <br /><br />Psychologists have studied the effects of single-sex boarding on attitudes to gender and sexuality, personality development, emotional intelligence, core stuff. Of course, boarding doesn't have only bad outcomes – some useful things perhaps, in terms of how we relate to the world.<br /><br />But effective agency in the world is not the same as personal stability. You don’t have to believe in one standard model of the “normal” person to accept that unresolved issues deep in the personality can cause anxiety and tension in later life, with physical consequences.<br /><br />Arkers’ way of dealing with this is hypnotherapy, mine is mindful meditation. Different roads on the same journey, man. Go well.<br /><br />ps recommend use the jelly down the accused's trousers, more fun.gloriamundihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12476712899700515223noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-812532375594500224.post-37938665375350470702011-05-07T06:10:29.087-07:002011-05-07T06:10:29.087-07:00What a lot in these comments! No doubt there’s a l...What a lot in these comments! No doubt there’s a lot more in this pile of . . . you know what.<br /> <br />Jonathan; you are quite right to point out that many people went through the prep school unscathed, in fact I think Stephen Fry has said something similar although he was not entirely happy as I recall.<br />For some it was an escape from life in another country, or bad experiences at home. I’m only talking about my own particular experience. I think that Paula is right about the festering. Fester at your peril.<br /><br />Boarding school can leave you in a strange unresolved state of dependence and independence. Geraldine (my sister) and I later shared a boarding school in Cumbria – a Quaker school no less. It took about two days to get there before the motorways. When we first got there the smell of Bacon and Porridge in the mornings, the long corridors, the weird accent and words, the strange-ness was very unsettling. I now realise that it was actually quite a benign school - that one. <br /><br />Most importantly of all, if I ever am a magistrate I shall ensure that not only do a wear a wig and gown, but that I have a good few gallons of jelly in my chambers to keep me happy.arkayeffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09863542411248361164noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-812532375594500224.post-52655964040439726092011-05-07T03:44:29.328-07:002011-05-07T03:44:29.328-07:00Oh I totally agree and have tried to push that sor...Oh I totally agree and have tried to push that sort of discussion with my GI but to no avail. I think we all may have traumas that weren't dealt with properly and left to fester ... mines my Mother....also abandonment issues too but different circumstances. I still believe that my UC was caused by work stress that just knocked me over the edge and into a life of UC. When I looked back at all the work stress I wondered why I didn't have a mental break down ... hence why I think I got UC.<br /><br />Everyone is life has stuff that they hold onto ... but some of u stuff mentallyPaulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12138838311414337663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-812532375594500224.post-54713587994620739402011-05-05T13:45:28.694-07:002011-05-05T13:45:28.694-07:00I think it's clear that state of mind can and ...I think it's clear that state of mind can and does have effects on physical health. The remaining questions are more specific: what effects and in what circumstances?<br /><br />As for boarding school, it clearly has different effects on each person who passes through. I haven't noticed any bad effect on my physical health, but that means nothing as far as you're concerned. Mental health, I dunno, you'd have to compare with another version of me who went to day schools in an alternate timestream, and then you'd have to figure out which one was crazier.Jonathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15661031964537092605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-812532375594500224.post-89957101886003154562011-05-05T12:06:23.204-07:002011-05-05T12:06:23.204-07:00I think boarding school made it hard for me to lea...I think boarding school made it hard for me to leave home or feel at home somewhere else. Odd in a way as it should have made me better at being away - but then I was a wimp in those days socially (more than I am now). I didn't feel happy unless near parents or our home. Sad for an oldie. Not sure though - it's a sort of theory.Geraldinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14165706911758968334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-812532375594500224.post-4379864450892998862011-05-05T04:55:18.455-07:002011-05-05T04:55:18.455-07:00Absolutely fascinating Arkers, and very poignant t...Absolutely fascinating Arkers, and very poignant too. You sweep through an enormous area of great significance with a magisterial clarity (by which I mean, if I ever land up in front of a magistrate, I hope he is as clear-minded and well-balanced as you are here.)<br /><br />I think I'll post on this mind/body/illness/early trauma area, in response to this, rather than bung up yer blog. <br /><br />For now: feeling a bit down this a.m. so I tried putting jelly down my trousers. I can tell you there is nothing funny about it at all.gloriamundihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12476712899700515223noreply@blogger.com